It is all your own fault

At least you are the one most interested and able to solve your problems. Remember when John Kennedy told us to ask not what our country can do for us and ask what we could do for our country. This philosophy seems quaint in the face of our entitlement culture. People are always looking for ways blame someone else.

The worst are the fat guys blaming McDonalds for their lack of control. With few exceptions, people are fat because of their habits. The equation is simple - eat less, move more. And being fat leads to all kinds of other health problems. A woman in my office was so fat that her ankles dislocated. She got them fixed, but didn't lose weight. Now she is crippled. Eating too much - just DON'T do it.

Then we have the boozers and druggies. Everything in moderation. What else can we say about that? We keep on telling them it is a disease until they get in real trouble. Then we tell them that only they can cure themselves. Why not tell people that up front.

Having trouble with your relationships? If one or two people are mean to you, it might be them. If it gets to be a pattern, it is probably you.

How about poverty itself? Poverty is behavior based. If you hold a full time job (almost any job), avoid having illegitimate kids, get married and stay faithful and avoid drugs and alcohol, it is almost impossible to stay poor. Everybody can be poor for a while, but only 1.7% of faithful married couples with children suffer long-term poverty.

Society is not like a family; it is like a team. You can expect your teammates to help you, but they expect you to do your part to develop your strengths and compensate for your weaknesses. If you fall down, they will help you up, but if you just lay down you are not a good team member. And if you are too fat to run, you are not doing your part. Luck plays a big role in success. Random chance affects your outcomes, but your outcomes are not random. Your behaviors determine your odds. Life is not fair. People don't get exactly what they deserve. Most people, however, do all right. It is possible to do everything right and still fail, but it is improbable.

This is the bottom line. If you are fat, eat less and move more. Pavement use is free in most of the U.S. You can buy running (or walking) shoes to last a year for about $70 - a couple weeks of fast food money or ice cream If you abuse substances, just don't. If people don't like you, figure out what you are doing to provoke them and stop it. If you are poor, examine the whole of your behaviors that are preventing you from doing better. Be a better team member and ask not what your country can do for you, ask what you can do for your country.

Posted by Jack at October 2, 2005 11:16 PM